I’ve never really thought about it actually, so I can’t give some deep, in depth discussion. I suppose I could be in charge every once in a while, it’s always fun to get what you want! But part of the reason I find myself submissive, is because I’m in charge in every other aspect of my life. At work. At home. It’s an amazing relief to let that all go and not have to think, just to trust and obey.